White privilege is not being afraid to have chicken for lunch in your majority white office because you’re afraid of fulfilling a stereotype
White privilege is not striving to “pass.” I am a gay black male, and I often find myself hoping to hear, “I don’t typically like black guys, but you’re exception. Something about you is different.” Within the gay community, white privilege thrives. The construction of the gay community first struck ground with white beauty standards. I, as well as others, fall subject to these standards. I consistently fight with myself over how I look. When looking into the mirror, I point out every more Eurocentric feature. I point out my light skin, my brighter guys, my small, pink lips and my small nose. I used to style my hair in an ambiguous manner that often had people asking me, “Are you half black? Your hair is so curly!” Without product, my hair would be considered “nappy.” White privilege prevents people from feeling less than.
White privilege is having people call your accent “cute” or “sexy”, as opposed to “ugly” or “unintelligible” or “rude sounding”.
White privilege is not having to figure out which race you ‘identify’ with. I am half Korean, but I grew up in the US, speak only English, and know absolutely nothing about Korean culture because my mom was adopted. I am also half white, but I’m not allowed to identify myself as white even though inside it’s what I consider myself, because when people look at me they see Asian.
White Privilege is not seeing a comment saying “SEE ME” on your first college essay in a class which you are the only POC. White Privilege is not having your college professor question whether the content of your, apparently brilliant paper, was from your brain. White Privilege is not hearing this statement, “We can sit down and I can go over the rules of citations with you, if you want” before you have had a chance to correct your professor on their erroneous assumptions. White Privilege is not having to endure, even after explaining to your professor that all the arguments are indeed your own and you cited every ounce of evidence correctly, the astounding disbelief when your professor congratulates you on "what an intelligent writer you are". White Privilege is being complemented on your intellectual prowess without your professors (of a highly-ranked New England collegiate institutions) assuming that you somehow cheated and singling you out. White Privilege is getting compliments on academic prowess without is being marred by racist assumptions.
White privilege is not getting murdered because of your skin color.
White privilege is your brother going for a run in the rain and not worrying if someone will shoot him in the heart or assume he is a criminal. White privilege is not suffering the indescribable pain and terror of being a young black man in America or having a young black man in your family in America.
My brother doesn’t dress like a “thug” which is a shitty reason to murder someone anyway. He attends university and speaks well, but that doesn’t matter either. As long as you are black and a male, you are a target and you do not matter. As long as you are black and male, you deserve to die.
White privilege is not having to tense up every time you have to say your parents’ name in front of a class full of your white classmates.
White privilege is getting a princess if you’re French, German(ic), Danish, Scottish, or Russian, while I get a Chinese not-even-an-actual-princess-so-she-doesn’t-need-a-place-on-the-poster princess.
White privilege is being able to say you’re from a country that your ancestors clearly weren’t from, without people asking where you were “born” or where you were from “originally”. It’s being able to go to a university and not have people with advanced degrees openly suggest that you can’t really be from the country that you say you are, because your skin colour doesn’t match their expectations of what colour someone from that country should be. White privilege is being able to be from anywhere in the world and have your identity respected as such, while a PoC who is like you in every other respect can only ever be defined based on where their ancestors were from, which is a question that other white people don’t even hesitate to broach, no matter how many times the PoC in question asserts their national identity.
White privilege is not the change in tone in your drama teacher’s voice when they read your last name aloud for the first time. It’s not the look of derision and contempt every time you open your mouth to speak.
White privilege is not being told at 15 that you’re mature enough to play the Nurse in Romeo and Juliet, not being told that your look and mannerisms are just right for the part, all while knowing that it’s code for “you’re Latina and this is what Latinas are for.”
White privilege is not being told at 16 that you’re not mature enough to play Lady Macbeth. That you don’t have the look. That you can’t play the part because you’re too “exotic.” That it’s unrealistic to see a non-white woman onstage in a powerful role.
White privilege is being told to keep your curls straight, tied back and out of your face, while all the flaxen girls with bangs sweeping low to their cheekbones get to see their hair flow and shine under stage lights.
White privilege is not being asked if your mother speaks English.
White privilege is the healthy fear of the sassy Latina. Don’t let her too close to the stage or she might shine. And we can’t have that, now can we?
White privilege is never being asked if your english name is a translation.
(The worst part was that I could tell she genuinely was trying to be friendly and didn’t mean harm by it at all. Sorry. My name is my fucking name, it’s not a translation of anything.)
White privilege is not seeing anything wrong with the fact that Ben Whishaw - a white English dude - is being considered for the starring role of the biopic of Freddie Mercury: arguably one of the most famous rock stars in the world and a man of Indian and Persian heritage.
Really? Not content with whitewashing fictional characters (hi Star Trek), Hollywood’s whitewashing someone who actually existed?
White privilege is going to the doctor for blood sugar issues and getting it checked out instead of being told to “stop eating so much rice”. It’s not having to wait until you total your car because you pass out from low blood sugar to find out the issue is a tumor on your pancreas.
White privilege is dating an Asian woman and when with her family he imitates her mother’s accent, asks her mom if she can cook these dogs that are annoying him and makes fun of the food she cooks. All the while no one will say anything because they don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable.