This is what my friend sent me, regarding the word Fetish. He wanted me to write something about Racial Fetishes, and being that I just experienced the dangers of racial fetishes he thought I’d be the best person to do it. Or better than him at least, being that I just recently went through this.
Now, regarding Racial Fetishes I am sure you have seen them before. Normally they take one stereotype, or put a huge emphasis on features of that racial group. For example:
Now, there are multiple other examples as to how people are turned into fetishes, but those two are just the first ones I came across. If you haven’t noticed already, any one can be turned into a fetish and when it comes to races they are from what I have seen racist. But why is turning a race into a fetish racist? Well, lets look back up at the picture my friend provided me with.
“A form of sexual desire in which gratification depends to an abnormal degree on some object or item of clothing or part of the body.”
I would like to point out the key words here which are “Object” and “Item”. A sexual fetish isn’t a human, it isn’t an living creature. A fetish from what I am understanding is an “abnormal” sexual desire towards an “object” or “Item”. Do you realize how that’s racist yet? If not let me explain: A human being is not an object, a human being is not an item. A human being has feelings, thoughts, emotions. A human being is a living creature with the ability to say yes, or no. If you are making lets say Asian women or Black women into a fetish you are dehumanizing them. You are looking at them for their race, not as a human being. You are looking at their race as just an object/item, that the people in that group are objects/items. That is racist, because right there you are thinking they are less superior than you (in this world we view humans more superior than objects/items).
Now one thing I also told my friend I would do is explain why this is dangerous. You must understand that when we view something less than, we don’t think about their rights. Take animals for example, yes animals do have some rights and are protected in some way but there are not viewed as equal as humans. They get manipulated and used in ways that humans would not be treated in, that is dangerous towards animals. Lets take Black people during Slavery (and Yes I know in some cases even now), Black slaves were not even considered humans. They were constantly compared to animals, they were saw as less superior. They were able to be used, abused, raped, killed, and there wasn’t any justice.
Pin pointing this down to my own experiences, I am a Black woman who was raped by a White Man. I did not find this white man attractive, because I do not like him as a person. This white man had came onto me the first day I met him in a very sexual manner, he didn’t take any time to get to know me as a person. He stated he “Likes Black and Asian women because of the way his cum looks on their skin.” He didn’t rape me because he liked me as a person, he raped me because I was solely a fetish to him. He didn’t come onto me because of who I am as a person, he didn’t really take any time to figure that out. He came onto me because I have brown skin, and he wanted to go forth with acting on his fetish.
Of course the subject of Male entitlement comes in, but this is just an example of how a Fetish can be dangerous. When you don’t really pursue a person for a person, you don’t respect the person. You don’t care about the person. You don’t think about what the person wants. You are selfish, and you are acting on entitlement that you THINK you have. A human is not entitled to another human. When a person has these thought patterns, situations become dangerous.
I hope this at least summed up why turned people/humans into fetishes is wrong. I hope you guys understand why this is dangerous. I hope people will correct their patterns of thinking after this post.